How to change your child’s nest

How to change your child’s “nest”

The “Matthew Effect” in home education tells us that the more you ask for your baby, the more you ask for it.
On the one hand, parents love their babies and give them whatever they want; on the other hand, babies become more and more dependent on their parents, and they want to let parents do it for themselves.
If you just let it go, the baby will take it for granted that the parents do things for themselves, the parents should serve for themselves, and even give orders to instruct the mother.
As the baby grows, the demand becomes more and more, and more and more are collected until the day when parents cannot afford to pay.
  In fact, most of the babies living in “nest” are living in overprotected and coddled families of their parents, especially those born in different generations, which is more likely to cause such problems.
These parents are always afraid that their baby will be bullied by others or have an accident. They are not allowed to go out to associate with their peers, or scare the baby to say that there are bad people outside, they will sell the baby, and the baby will naturally be timid and afraid; at home,In order to let the baby play with peace of mind, parents go all out to follow him and focus on the baby, thus cultivating the baby’s habit of dominating the king.
  Once such a baby goes out of the house, in the interaction with peers of the same age, he often moves out of the house to instruct others, but the small partner can not eat this set. At this time, the baby not only can’t direct others, but will be met by the small partner.Our rejection.
After several such frustrations, coupled with insufficient self-ability, the baby had to evade, hide behind and sullen, and refused to play with the children.
Over time, when the baby’s dissatisfaction and resentment have accumulated to a certain extent and need to be vented, the breach naturally turns to the “weak” in the family, and compensates with more domineering at home to achieve a temporary psychological “balance”.
  The “Matthew Effect” in family education The “Matthew Effect” in family education tells us that the more you ask for your baby, the more you ask for it.
On the one hand, parents love their babies and give them whatever they want; on the other hand, babies become more and more dependent on their parents, and they want to let parents do it for themselves.
If you just let it go, the baby will take it for granted that the parents do things for themselves, the parents should serve for themselves, and even give orders to instruct the mother.
As the baby grows, the demand becomes more and more, and more and more are collected until the day when parents cannot afford to pay.
When the requirements are not met, the baby may even use violence against the parents. Many tragedies are caused by the parents themselves.
  Psychological analysis of the baby: The baby feels scared outside, which is psychologically typical of insufficient self-strength. The baby who is “horizontal” lacks collision with the outside world, and after leaving the “nest”, he is at a loss.
When he was in an unfamiliar environment, he didn’t know what he should do, he just hid behind his parents and did nothing to protect himself.
Babies think that their ability is not enough to compete with external forces, and they can only stick to their parents, expecting adults to protect themselves.
This kind of baby can’t play with other children in the kindergarten, he always entangles the teacher.
The teacher could not deal with only one baby, so the baby became more and more uneasy and gradually did not want to go to kindergarten.
If this continues, the baby’s ability to make friends will not grow up.
  There are coups to change the baby. The family should change the education method of coddling. Parents overdoing the baby will unconsciously form a baby-centered family relationship, causing the baby to become arrogant, selfish, and wayward.
Therefore, parents should change the education model, be strict with each other, let the baby’s status in the family become educated and ordinary members of the family, redefine the rules of the family, and everyone must abide by it.
  Teach your baby to be polite and obey the rules. These two points are important in interpersonal communication. Only by fully respecting the rights of others, your rights will be respected.
Only by following common rules can life be orderly.
  停止对宝宝的过度保护  对于宝宝力所能及的事情,要求宝宝自己尝试去做,由于宝宝在这之前一直是被大人帮着做事情,所以,一开始时他还会说“帮我做”,这时Instead of fulfilling his requirements, say to him, “Try to do it yourself.
“In this case, the baby will gradually start to have the courage to try to do it by himself.
The baby has a little success, a little hard work, should praise the baby in a timely manner, do not blame the baby at this time, blame will make her even more overwhelmed.
Babies need guidance from parents.
Do not set too high goals for your baby at this stage.
Once the baby feels frustrated, he will feel lost and inferior.
  Don’t compare. Don’t compare your baby with someone’s.
Some mothers always complain to their babies: “You are so stupid, what can be scared of this?
“You look at Doudou.”
“Wait, babies have their own strengths and weaknesses. Remember: everyone has their own strengths, give play to their strengths, and work hard to supplement their weaknesses is the most important thing.
  Create opportunities for interaction. The courage and ability of the baby is not innate, nor can it be given by the parents. It must be obtained by the baby’s interaction with the society. No one can give it.
  Parents need to create opportunities for the baby to take the initiative to take the baby out to play outdoors, let the baby more contact with children of the same age, and let the baby learn to cooperate with children in interaction with children.
As long as there is no danger in the quarrel of the baby’s interaction, parents should not interfere.
In case of trouble, let the baby try it by himself to cultivate the baby’s sense of responsibility and self-confidence and reduce dependence.  Parents need to have patience, and it takes a process for a baby to become courageous from being timid, but this process is definitely the only way to make him not timid, and even to essentially enhance the baby’s self-power.

In the course of this little bit of successful experience, the baby will gradually develop such confidence: I can!

  Only when parents release their big hands to protect, can the baby dare to take the lead, and consciously exercise the baby’s courage, and insist on consistent cultivation, it will bear fruit.